CNM Dating App Reviews — Non-Monogamy.com

Feeld Review: Is It Still the Best CNM Dating App?

The dominant CNM platform, strong brand, large network, but verification gaps and moderation inconsistencies keep it from being the definitive answer it could be.

Best for: Urban CNM seekers, especially polyamorous and kink-curious users

OkCupid for Non-Monogamous Dating

The most CNM-friendly mainstream app. Not built for CNM, but more thoughtfully configured for it than most. Better for polyamory than swinging.

Best for: People who want a large user base with CNM-friendly profile options

#Open Review: Events, Community, and Dating in One App

More than a dating app. The events and community layer is genuinely valuable. Smaller network than Feeld, but more intentional about CNM.

Best for: Community-oriented CNM people, especially in cities with active #Open event scenes

Kasidie Review: Swinger Community Assessment

A long-running platform with real community depth for the swinging world. The UX is showing its age, but the network in key regions remains valuable.

Best for: Couples and singles in the swinging and lifestyle community

SLS (SwingLifeStyle) Review: Time to Move On?

Once the dominant swinger platform. Significant technical and UX decline over recent years. The network still has value; the product itself increasingly doesn't.

Best for: Established members with existing SLS connections, hard to recommend for new joiners

Fab Swingers Review: The UK Lifestyle Community's Home Platform

The dominant UK lifestyle platform, not by default, but because it has earned the community. Strong regional coverage, a functional free tier, and the most comprehensive UK events directory available.

Best for: UK swinging and lifestyle community, couples, single females, and single males in that order

Grindr for CNM: How It Works for Non-Monogamous Queer Men

Non-monogamy is normalised to an unusual degree, open relationships are a standard profile field, not a disclosure. The dominant platform for gay and bi CNM men, with genuine reach limitations for everyone else.

Best for: Gay and bisexual non-monogamous men in cities with active Grindr user bases

Hinge for Non-Monogamous Dating: An Honest Assessment

Large, high-quality mainstream user base but no CNM infrastructure. CNM disclosure is entirely manual. A useful supplement in cities where Feeld is thin, not a replacement for specialist platforms.

Best for: CNM people who want mainstream reach in cities with active Hinge user bases

Bumble for Non-Monogamous Dating: An Honest Assessment

No CNM features; the women-message-first mechanic defines the experience on straight matches. A distant third for CNM dating behind Feeld and OkCupid, but worth running as a supplement in active markets.

Best for: CNM women in cities with active Bumble user bases who want supplementary mainstream reach

Scruff Review: CNM for Gay and Bi Men

More community-oriented than Grindr, events, groups, longer profiles, and stronger in leather, bear, and kink subcommunities. Run alongside Grindr rather than instead of it.

Best for: Gay and bi men interested in bears, leather, or kink; those wanting community depth beyond Grindr's grid

Tinder for Non-Monogamous Dating: An Honest Assessment

The world's most-used app, and the worst mainstream option for CNM. Swipe-first culture buries bio disclosure; no CNM features; low profile quality. Worth using only where nothing better exists.

Best for: CNM users in markets where Feeld and OkCupid have no active users

HER App Review: CNM Dating for Queer Women and Non-Binary People

The dominant app for queer women and non-binary people. Non-monogamy is more normalised within its user base than on any mainstream straight app. Best in cities with large queer communities.

Best for: Queer women and non-binary CNM people in cities with active queer communities

Recon Review: Leather, Fetish and Kink Dating for Gay Men

The dominant platform for gay men in the leather, fetish, and kink community. Essential infrastructure for anyone navigating where kink and CNM overlap in gay male culture. Global event coverage sets it apart.

Best for: Gay and bi men with leather, fetish, or kink interests, particularly those travelling to leather events

Plenty of Fish for Non-Monogamous Dating: An Honest Assessment

A very large but low-engagement user base with no CNM features and poor profile quality. In most markets, Tinder is a better mainstream fallback than PoF, and Feeld or OkCupid are better than both.

Best for: CNM users in smaller markets where all better options have no active users, a last resort

Our review methodology

Every platform is evaluated against the same criteria: user base size and CNM distribution, verification and safety features, profile depth and CNM-specific options, moderation quality, pricing and value, and overall experience. Scores reflect genuine assessment, not affiliate commission rates. Read the full methodology →