Multiamory is the closest thing the polyamory world has to a flagship podcast. Hosted since 2014 by Dedeker Winston, Emily Matlack, and Jase Lindgren, all three of whom work as relationship coaches, the show has produced 500+ episodes and built a reputation for bringing academic research into practical relationship conversations without losing accessibility.
What distinguishes it
The research underpinning is genuine. The hosts regularly reference actual studies from relationship science, psychology, and sociology, and the show has documented engagement with hundreds of academic papers on consensual non-monogamy. This is not typical for the genre. Most CNM podcasts operate on anecdote and community wisdom; Multiamory does too, but anchors it in a level of intellectual rigour that sets it apart.
The three-host format creates productive disagreement. Dedeker, Emily, and Jase don't always converge on the same conclusions, and episodes frequently feature genuine debate rather than unanimous validation. The result is more useful than a show with a single perspective.
Topics covered
The show covers the full range of CNM territory: polyamory structures, jealousy and compersion, communication frameworks (the hosts have developed their own tools, including the RADAR check-in system), boundaries vs rules, relationship anarchy, hierarchical vs non-hierarchical polyamory, swinging, solo polyamory, opening existing relationships, and metamour dynamics. The depth across each topic is exceptional by genre standards.
Guest episodes feature researchers, therapists, authors, and community figures. The interviews are better prepared than most, and the hosts push back where warranted rather than deferring uncritically to credentials.
Criticisms and limitations
The show's US perspective is consistent, and some of the cultural references and social context don't translate directly to UK or European listeners. The coaching framework that all three hosts operate within occasionally gives episodes a prescriptive quality. And 500+ episodes is a lot of material to navigate without clear curation.
Who it's for
Multiamory is a strong starting point for anyone newly exploring polyamory or CNM, and has enough depth to reward long-term listeners. If you're only going to follow one CNM podcast, this is the most defensible choice.